I received an email today from a young mom who asked a wonderful question: “What are the benefits of being a stay-at-home mom?” What an excellent question and one that is very near and dear to my heart.
Since I was a little girl, I dreamed of having a family and being a stay-at-home mom. I believe this goal was (and is) so close to my heart because my mother was taken from me at a very young age. I grew up as a latch-key kid and as I grew, I knew that without a doubt that was not what I wanted for my children. I am so blessed to have met a man that shared the same heart values regarding family!
I know that many women have “careers” before they begin a family. Actually, I had a very lucrative career as a Legal Assistant/Paralegal, but from the moment I met my husband, married and decided to start a family — we both had made the commitment to each other and our future children that I would quit and be a “stay-a-home-mom.” For us this was an easy decision, but I realize that this decision is very serious one that involves many, many factors. But, you must realize that there are many, many benefits and blessings to becoming a stay-at-home mom versus being a working mom.
Let me share with you the benefits and the blessings of staying home:
1. BONDING WITH YOUR CHILD:
I believe that one of the biggest and most obvious benefits of being a stay-at-home mom is the amount of time that you can spend with your child and/or children. By being a stay-at-home mom you definitely have more time to bond with your little one! That is exactly why we have a child isn’t it? Also, it has been medically proven that after having your baby staying close to your child actually allows for healthy bonding and allows for both of you to heal physically, mentally and emotionally after the ordeal of labor and delivery. Most women do have a strong desire to spend every waking moment with their newborn, to capture and hold on to every possible precious memory as your child grows. A stay-at-home mom is a lifestyle that can allow you not to miss out on any important milestones that your little one accomplishes. To me this was and is a treasure to my heart and one I will never forget.
2. HOW YOUR CHILD BENEFITS:
When a mom stays at home it doesn’t just benefit the mother, but also the child immensely. It makes a place of safety, peace and security for a child to know that his/her mom is always there for them – not only physically, but emotionally and spiritually as well. Many medical studies have proven that children from stay at home mom families are more likely to perform better in school and are more secure in themselves as a person. If taught, as they grow they have the confidence in themselves in which allows them to make safe and wise decisions. Also they have the confidence that you are there to support them in every aspect of their life. I know this to be true, just by looking at my own children. Don’t you think that every child deserves the best possible start for their little lives? I do! That is why I believe you cannot top a stay-at-home-mom.
3. SAVING MONEY ON CHILD CARE:
Saving money is a benefit of being a stay-at-home mom. As a stay-at-home mom you have the ability to save money on and even eliminate the cost of child care. Even though you might need a babysitter once in a while, the family as a whole will not need to pay for the daily expense of child care costs. My husband and I weighed the price of child care versus my salary and believe it or not, we would not have been ahead that much financially. Certainly not enough for us to give up that special bonding time with our little one. Building a firm foundation in his little life outweighed any financial gain we could have had.
4. A LESS STRESS ENVIRONMENT:
Once you get your new baby home, used to your new budget, and get your baby’s schedule intact, you will find that you definitely have a less stressful schedule than that of a working mothers. You will not have to rush around to exit the house every morning trying to get your baby ready for the sitters and/or day care or yourself for work. While it is true that raising children can be stressful and that as get older schedules can grow difficult, it is a blessing to be able to get up every morning to your precious little angel(s) and know that it is going to be you taking care of them, you supplying their every little need, and you being able to read to them and coddle them every moment of the day.
5. FOR LIFE IN GENERAL (Society):
Being a stay-at-home mom also produces raising strong, healthy and wise children that will ultimately benefit society (the world) as they grown into well-established and healthy adults. It is well-known that children coming from families that have a stay-at-home mom, It has been my experience that a well established family grows well established families. Families that are committed to their child’s well-being give them a greater potential to be successful in every aspect of their life.
In closing, if you are seriously considering being a stay-at-home mom I encourage and challenge you to never let anyone or anything persuade you otherwise, especially if you know without a doubt that is it God’s will for your life.
Even as hard as it is in this modern society that we live in today, we as “Wife, Mothers, Homemakers and Keepers of Home” can never allow the enemy to flood our minds, thoughts and eventually our actions to get us out of our homes. We cannot allow him to blot out our commitment (or calling) that God has granted us with. We are not only stay-at-home moms (homemakers and keepers of home) for our families; but rather, we are daughters to the High King. We need to allow God to improve us as: individuals, wives, and mothers.